I know, I know. It's been a month since my last post.
I had to take a break. I blame the holidays...because it's
convenient.
Truthfully, the real reason is the Gray.
The Gray is often at the edge of my vision.
Sometimes I pretend not to see it.
Sometimes I turn and face it belligerently.
Sometimes I run from it.
The Gray can be bad for me.
It has packed on more than a few pounds
of fat and it sucks the productivity out
my free time. The Gray has left me more
distracted and absent minded than usual.
And that's pretty dang distracted.
Tonight I pulled up to a red light,
stopped, looked both ways and
ran it.
The Gray is not my enemy but it can never be my
friend.
To be friends with the Gray would leave me in
the bed all day. Detatched from all those I love.
Withdrawn to a place where all colors and
feelings are muted because loss is less
painful that way.
I know this because I have been friends with
the Gray before and I had to fight hard to
break up with it.
I made it through my first Thanksgiving as the
Mom in charge. It was pretty awful. For many
different reasons my extended family was very
scattered and for the first time I can remember
we weren't together. Only four of us gathered
around our table that day but we were thankful
to be together and it was okay.
I kept the Gray pushed away because I was
worried about my oldest who was very sick.
AND I was busy trying to figure out a way to convince
her and her husband that they were still my little
chicks and would be better off moving into my basement.
That would make it so much easier for me to take care
of them when they are sick.
Just sayin'......
Christmas night I said, somewhat pridefully,
that sometimes the anticipation of a painful
event is worse than
the actual event.
Then I woke up this morning to the Gray.
My little piece of the world seems to be filled
with pain for so many of the people I care about.
I am so tired of feeling helpless against their pain.
I have spent the day teary eyed for my father, my
friend, my brothers and my sister.
What I know is this.
Ignoring pain makes it stronger.
When the pain comes...
it is best to face it and feel it.
Just don't make friends with it.
Just sayin'.........
